Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous
For the Fabulous Life You Always Wanted
Welcome to our
Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous
Enjoy this outstanding interview!
Sylvia Beckerman is an excellent podcast host — and it’s on video!
Since Sylvia focuses on women’s issues, she only interviewed me, Judith.
AND we had a terrific time. And you will too when you listen!
A former actress (you may have spotted Judith in one of the original Star Trek series episodes), Judith Sherven coined the phrase The Fear of Being Fabulous. A clinical psychologist with more than 35 years’ experience as a psychotherapist, transformational executive coach and business consultant, Judith practices alongside her husband Jim Sniechowski, also a PhD Clinical Psychologist. Judith is an executive coach for a number of tech companies. She helps leaders overcome any insecurities they have about maximizing their leadership: Their Fear of Being Fabulous.
Both Judith and Jim are on retainer at both LinkedIn and Credit Karma. Judith writes for LinkedIn as an influencer. She inspires managers to engage their team members with their trademarked program: Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous. It’s been called “the missing link in personal and professional development.”
Judith has been on over 3,000 radio and TV shows including Oprah, The View, 48 Hours and Canada AM as a guest expert. Together, Judith and Jim have written 7 LA Times bestselling books.
Both had been professional actors for a long time before they met in 1987. And both discovered that their Fear of Being Fabulous had prevented them from moving forward with their acting careers. This brought them on a 6 year journey of creating their program.
A conversation with Judith:
- Self-sabotaging a successful acting career
- The Fear of Being Fabulous incubation
- The Barbizon connection
- Patterns identified and their connections
- Meeting Jim and their journey
- Owning your own excellence
- Asking for more with confidence
- Relationships of all kinds – personal and professional, family and friends
- Owning your uniqueness
- ‘You are a miracle’
- Making yourself stronger
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Because It’s All In The Connection!
This is our last podcast episode for the foreseeable future, but all past episodes will remain online for you to access whenever you like.
Now to a question ~
So often people say their success is a matter of “luck” or “fate.” They’ll say it in response to a compliment or the successful outcome of a job interview or first date.
Why would people hand off these important issues and positive results to “luck” or “fate” rather than their own decisions, their own behavior, their own intelligence, their own excellence?
This isn’t just about receiving. It’s about owning responsibility for your choices, your actions, your excellence, and success in whatever ways it manifests. So we ask, how can you feel rightfully fabulous, when you’re not owning who you actually are?
An Important Message …
Due to the many problems primarily associated with COVID-19, this is our last Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous podcast and we do thank you for your support. But while you’re here, you might like to explore the rest of our website.
How do you respond when …
It’s a certainty, a fact that there will always be disappointment in life. So the most important question is – how do you respond when you experience those shocks, hurts, and sometimes soul-draining, devastating events?
Do you collapse, feel like a victim, decide it’s too much to bear? Or do you experience the frustration, the pain and acknowledge that it is real, without covering it over with false humor or developing a stiff upper lip.
Because how you respond to being disappointed is either a recipe for gratitude and a life well-lived, or a deeply contaminated recipe for bitterness and the chronic experience of defeat — no matter the actual realities of your current life.
How do you experience gratitude?
You may be asking yourself — what does Gratitude have to do with Overcoming The Fear Of Being Fabulous? You might even think you have lots of frustrations so what’s to be grateful for?
But that may be one of the issues that keeps holding you back! You may be so focused on what you don’t have that you forget to pay attention to all that you DO have.
Perhaps you’ve heard the phrase “like attracts like” — and it’s true! Whether it’s in friendships, romantic relationships, career opportunities — like does attract like. And gratitude really does attract more to be grateful for!
So today we’re going to explore the power of gratitude to help you overcome the fear of being fabulous.
Do you even dare do it?
When you eat out, do you feel comfortable returning dishes or drinks that weren’t prepared like you ordered? Do you even dare do it?
We’ve talked with so many people who told us they were horrified at the thought of sending back a well-done hamburger when they ordered rare; or limp bacon when they ordered super crispy; or a malt that’s delivered ahead of your meal when you specified that you wanted it with your meal and not before.
Even when we point out that they are paying for something they specified to be made a certain way, they shake their head and are clearly unable to be in charge of themselves in this regard. So today we are digging into the blocks that prevent speaking up in your own defense!
Do You Own Your Own Life – On Your Own Terms?
Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous is rooted in awakening you to the powerful childhood roots that can be holding you back.
That’s why today we’re addressing your life, and all that influenced you before your brain was capable of Reason and Analysis. Because only with the capability to reason, analyze, and question can you own your life—on your own terms.
Join us now as we explore this very important topic.
Are you more comfortable being nice or being honest??
How often do you feel you have to be “nice” rather than honest?
So often people short change the other person and themselves by reducing their feedback, whether at work or in their personal lives, to “being nice”, when they could provide valuable communication if they were simply, and respectfully honest.
Why would you avoid telling the truth, in favor of being “nice”?
Most people say it’s because they are afraid of hurting someone’s feelings. But think about it this way — as the Dean of my graduate school once said, “Nice folks leave a wake of destruction in their path.”
So make sure to listen as we unpack that bit of true wisdom!
Which do you regret the most – what you haven’t done or what you have done?
Have you heard the expression “You’ll regret what you haven’t done, not what you actually have done”?
What comes to mind when you think about regret? Chances are good that it’s not about things you did, but about things you didn’t allow yourself to do. Or haven’t done and may never do, but you’d like to – sort of —
So today we’re digging into desire and regret.
Because what we’ve seen all too often are the regrets that shadow people’s careers and personal lives.
Regrets about what they might have done or could have done but didn’t.
“Oh I can’t leave it behind. It’s part of who I’ve always been.”
If you started at the beginning of our podcast series, you heard us mention “The Love Grip” Today we’re going to dig into a deeper definition of “The Love Grip”, how it’s created, and why it’s so often difficult to leave behind. In fact, when some people understand that they are caught in The Love Grip and that’s what has been holding them back, they are shocked to hear themselves say, “Oh I can’t leave it behind. It’s part of who I’ve always been.”
Yes, the Love Grip can feel so much a part of you that for some people it’s very difficult to release.
As a married psychology team we’ve been exploring and working with people about issues that relate to “The Love Grip” for over 30 years. And we know that it can touch right into the depths of what’s been holding you back in any area of your life.
No more hiding your holdbacks!
Yes, it’s really becoming a movement! And times, they really are changing! No more hiding your holdbacks, your fears of being too much. Or, on the other hand, no more avoiding telling your friends about the great promotion you just received, the awesome person you just went out with who wants to see you again, the amount of weight you lost, or the wonderful vacation you have planned!
And it’s totally okay if you’re struggling, uncomfortable, self-conscious, even embarrassed that The Fear Of Being Fabulous still has a hold on you. In fact, you can say so.
Why? Because more and more we hear from people who listen to this podcast, share it with their friends, and are finding that the topic of Overcoming The Fear Of Being Fabulous is more and more an okay thing to talk about!