Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous
For the Fabulous Life You Always Wanted
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Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous
Overcoming the Fear of Being Fabulous podcasts are weekly bite-sized 7-10-minute episodes devoted to helping you move past internal (often unconscious) barriers, or what hosts Judith & Jim call allegiances and holdbacks.
Our podcasts are devoted to helping you expand your life, in whatever ways you want or need, and that’s why we feature such wide ranging topics.
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You’ll Never Liberate Your True Identity Until You “Leave Home” Internally
Most people move out of their parents home to start their own lives. But, for most people, all too often it’s merely a physical leaving home, not one that liberates their identity!
So today, Judith will interview Jim about why he wrote his Leaving Home Trilogy of autobiographical novels.
Jim will reveal how the first book, Worship of Hollow Gods, explores some of the many “hollow gods” families become committed to; become addicted to.
In Jim’s second book, An Ambition To Belong, he explores the angst most adolescents experience – no longer children and not yet adult. Belonging nowhere.
Jim’s award-winning, best-selling novels added to his own freedom to be fabulous, writing about many issues that people can find off-limits or even spiritually offensive. And in that way publishing these novels was a major act of internally leaving home for Jim.
To learn more about the trilogy and download a FREE copy of one of James’ favorite chapters from the Leaving Home Trilogy just go to
Managing up! Ever hear of it? Never heard of it?
It’s important that you don’t allow yourself to just be obedient whether it’s with your boss, your spouse, whoever! In order to grow in your self-appraisal, today Judith & Jim will help you learn to better manage up!
It’s important that you feel comfortable influencing others, perhaps in your relationship with your child’s teacher, or with your next door neighbor, or your friendship circle. Managing Up and Influencing Others is an important element in your commitment to living an expanded lifestyle.
Did You Know that there’s no such thing as failure ?
Judith & Jim have a big announcement for you! Perhaps even a giant wake-up call! THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FAILURE. Yes, you heard that right. There is no such thing as failure. Why? Because you are always succeeding – always. The question is – at what? Today Judith & Jim will help you dig into this provocative guarantee. You’ll be surprised at what you discover. To get ready for this podcast, bring to mind an area in your life where you are not living up to what you would prefer. It might be in your career, your love life, physical fitness, spirituality, you name it. Now get ready for J & J to help you think about this area in your life very, very differently!
Are you allowed to outshine your parents and/or siblings?
Many people are held back by worry that if they succeed according to their own desires and ambitions they will feel guilty. But – guilty of what? Guilty for outshining everyone else in their family. Guilty for going after things their family may not approve of. Guilty. What about you? What have you felt guilty about?
What do you feel guilty about right now? Moving away from your family’s long time city or town? Dating or marrying outside your family’s race, religion, or any other approved of category? Making more money than anyone in your family ever even thought about? Succeeding in a career your family thinks is corrupt or even evil? There are plenty of other categories of course.
So today Judith & Jim ask and explore with you this key question …
Ever thought about how areas of your life can actually be contaminated — polluted by experiences and emotional associations in your early life?
In today’s episode Judith & Jim will help you dig into this as it applies to your life, your much larger life and your current fear of being fabulous. So please give some thought to how early upbringing can twist how people think about other people’s race, religion, and other cultures. Think about how kids learn to make fun of other kids, to bully and badger them. They weren’t born that way. They learned it. And they think it’s okay. Those are the results of contamination!
So how has your life, and the way you relate to yourself, been contaminated by your early experiences?
3 Big Questions for You
Today Judith & Jim have 3 big questions for you! Because they want you to better understand “Where in your life is your Unconscious holding you back?” They are following up on the topic of Unconscious Allegiances and Forbiddances, and will be helping you examine the difference between those areas in your life where you are doing really well – maybe even amazing – and those where you feel like the mysteries of the universe have you trapped and you can’t get out!
Today it’s Jim’s turn to share some of his stories that demonstrate where his Fear of Being Fabulous originated.
When you listen to Jim describe a bit of his background and the early roots of his Fear Of Being Fabulous, see what comes to mind from your own early experiences where you thought you had to be humble and modest, playing down your own excellence and expertise. That playing down is what J & J call “hold-backs” which are most often unconscious until you get awakened to how they are interfering with your larger more satisfying life. And that’s what “The Double Js” are dedicated to helping you discover.
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Today’s episode is about Judith’s Fear Of Being Fabulous
Judith & Jim’s expertise in helping people with Overcoming The Fear Of Being Fabulous didn’t just come from working with clients in their private practice over many years and now coaching tech industry executives. It started with their own personal challenges.
Today you’ll gain insight into a bit of Judith’s background and how it helped create personal and professional challenges for her – so you can hopefully relate them to your own life.
Next week it’s Jim’s turn to share some stories about his holdbacks.
This isn’t some kind of psycho-jargon.
It’s important to understand the specific terms Judith & Jim use to describe how The Fear Of Being Fabulous is created, how it’s maintained, and what’s involved in order for you to actually Overcome The Fear Of Being Fabulous.
This isn’t some kind of psycho-jargon. J & J’s specific terms emerged through the process of coaching and teaching people about The Fear Of Being Fabulous, and continually exploring their own experiences with it as well.
In this episode you’ll find out what “Allegiances” and Forbiddances” are all about. And you’ll also discover the dangers of “The Love Grip.” Get ready to compare your own experiences with what The Double Js will be sharing with you.
Who are you really? And what is not the REAL you?
Many people associate the unconscious with forbidden feelings. Perhaps sexual, perhaps rageful, or anything else that’s considered forbidden. But we prefer to look at what went into your mind to help create The Fear Of Being Fabulous before you were old enough to evaluate what is actually true for you – who you really are – and what is not the real you.
That’s why J & J devote this podcast to helping you explore the power of the unconscious and how it can be controlling you without your awareness or understanding.
And The Double Js will also give you some useful tips to help you weed out unconscious prohibitions that are holding you back!